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Help For Parenting Children Your Child After A Divorce- Help From A Raleigh Therapist

You are hurt by the emotional upheaval of divorce and now want more than anything to spare your children. They are hurting and you want to make sure that they are going to be okay. You may feel swamped with guilt and sink into denial. This is where it is so very important that you muster enough strength to help your child.

You want to parent your child after divorce with sensitivity.

The key to helping them through this hard time is to be in touch with their experience. The first and foremost thing you can do is to keep in mind your child has experienced a loss. Until you connect with them on the heart plane, little else you do or say will have any positive impact.

 There are particular things that you can do to see to it that they don’t hurt any more than they have to.

In fact, how you handle parenting your child after a divorce makes all the difference. Like it or not, life is full of loss and the way that they are helped through this loss will set the stage for handling other losses.

At a time when you feel the most emotional yourself – it is so important that you stay with your child’s experience. People say let your child know the divorce isn’t their fault. While this is important it frankly, isn’t enough.  Most children do not have the conscious idea that a divorce is their fault, so telling them straight out that it isn’t their fault may fall on deaf ears.

 While it may be tempting seems to do, cheering them up, telling them why the divorce is for the best or discounting their upset is the most damaging.

Staying with their experience and knowing something about how loss is processed will let you know what to say and what to do. A good therapist will be able to help you attend to your child depending on their developmental stage and how they are reacting to the divorce. Every child of divorce responds differently.

Keeping your heart open and be willing to enter into the heart of their pain is the best way to make sure your child of divorce will be OK.

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