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Stand Up To The Mother Guilt, Guilt Trip

 When It Comes Time To Stand Up To The Mother Guilt, Guilt Trip  A daughter came to me for help, describing a truly awful mother/daughter dynamic. Yep, that’s right, ripe for Jerry Springer stuff.  Mom alternately lifted her daughter up “You know you are the only one I can depend on.” only to dash her […]

Are You Settling For Less In Your Relationships? We Need To Talk…..

COULD THIS BE YOU? “You know John is great ….except, of course, when he isn’t. There is a lot about him I do like, but he doesn’t always come through with his promises.  I think he has a lot on his mind these days. I really wish he would talk to someone. ( Yep, there is […]

The Little Known Secret To Manifesting The Man Of Your Dreams- That Mom Couldn’t Tell You

Did mom teach you that manipulating a man was the way to get love, either by her treatment or example? “What do you think?” said Susan from the therapy couch, her eyes searching, eager to be reassured. “He said he was feeling really close to me and that he would call. I didn’t answer his […]

Did Your Narcissistic Mother Cast an Evil Spell of Self-Doubt on You?

Did mom – cast shadows of doubt while appearing to support you? Let me “spell” this one out for you.  Did mom say one thing, but mean another.  Did she give you mixed messages?

A Narcissistic Mother Sets Her Daughter Up For Postpartum Depression

Postpartum Depression-  When you become the mother. For, you, the daughter of the Narcissistic mother, new motherhood can be terrifying. Just when everyone expects you to be blissing out, you can feel like a failure. Do you look at your beautiful baby only to have tears stream down your face? As a consequence of being […]

“I Could Never Say That To My Mother”, Means You Probably Should…..

Why is it so hard to say no to mom? You are so afraid of hurting mom’s feelings. The critical comments, the unwanted advice, the controlling moves, all add up. You feel like you want to scream, yet you choke back your words. You just can’t find your voice. A well-meaning friend or therapist says- ” […]

Your Mother Was Narcissistic- This Is Your Chance To Break The Cycle For Your Daughter

When you truly move past wishing mom were different ….. You open to the possibilities of a life transformed. You and your daughter can write your own chapter. Parenting her differently can transform your pain into strength. Walking away (from the argument or the relationship) can be the most grown up thing you can do. […]

Letting Go of The Mother You Wish You Had…

From my psychotherapy couch, I see your face fall and an unbearable sadness come over you.  Your heart is breaking in two. The child in you is facing an unbearable loss. The love you want so very much to feel from your mother just isn’t going to be. Wishing it weren’t true, you have been […]

Are You An Ungrateful Brat Or A Long Suffering Victim Of Your Narcissistic Mother?

Do daughters revel in their anger towards their difficult mothers? Blame mom!  Rail against mom! If it’s not one thing, it’s your mother, right? Although it might look this way on the surface, in my 30 years as a psychotherapist, I find quite the opposite is true. Most daughters want to feel love from and towards their […]

Giving The Love You Never Got From Your Own Narcissistic Mother To Your Daughter

Wake up. Wake up dearest. It Is Time To Wake Up Now. Time to wake up from your childhood slumber. You know the slumber that keeps you dreaming of a mother who will understand you and love you just the way you are. The one who is going to come along and make everything alright. […]

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