Psychodynamic psychotherapy addresses the conscious as well as the unconscious roots of emotional pain. What is the unconscious and how does it affect the present? Let’s begin with how feelings become unconscious- You have to give credit to the brilliance of our psychological mind. It operates much like our physical body in response to pain. […]
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6 Things You Can Say Instead of Giving Advice – Help From a Raleigh Therapist
You know the feeling. You are just itching to give advice, but you can sense it isn’t the best thing to do. Does your daughter really want your advice or so they just want to be heard? You’ve noticed: Your advice always seems to fall on deaf ears. Or worse, your daughter appears to […]
The Truly Impossible Difficult Narcissistic Mother: Help From a Raleigh Therapist
Do you have a truly impossible narcissistic mother? The narcissistic mother wrote the book on sending mixed messages. Saying one thing and meaning another is like breathing for her. Exclaiming, that she loves you without bounds one minute and then criticizing every move you make the next is crazy making for sure. What do you […]
If It’s Not One Thing It’s Your Mother : Mother/Daughter Relationship Problems- Help From a Raleigh Therapist
Mother/Daughter Relationship Problems The lie that drove everything. Despite advances in women’s lives, your mother was lied to by her culture. The lie was that women are not worthy. Your mother learned from living in a patriarchal culture that she was not good enough and her female power was dangerous. Men throughout the ages have […]
Do You Need A Therapist Or A Coach?- Help From a Raleigh Therapist
Do You Need A Therapist Or A Coach You have been in therapy before and know you have issues. Not exactly messed up, but let’s just say you are on a first name basis with words like depression and anxiety. Your next of kin could be described as narcissistic, abusive or some other variety of […]
“Was I Sexually Abused And How Can Counseling Help ?” Help From A Raleigh Therapist
( “Was I Sexually Abused And How Can Counseling Help ?” Help From A Raleigh Therapist ) In my 30 plus years of conducting psychotherapy, I am asked more times than you might imagine, “ I think I might have been sexually abused, how can I know for sure?” I take that question seriously, very seriously. […]
How Does Therapy Work And Why Is Change So Hard ? Help From A Raleigh Therapist
When you first get into therapy, I’ll bet you will say you want to lose something. “I want to get rid of this anxiety once and for all”. “I want to lose this depression for good!” What I almost never hear is,“ I want to lose this way of knowing myself and being in the […]
Money and Therapy : When It Gets Sticky and Feels Icky- Cancellation Fees And Paying For Therapy
So you’ve found a therapist you like and who seems to get you. You’ve had some insights with her that-if implemented, were worth their weight in gold. Sure you haven’t always felt like talking but once the session got rolling you usually came away feeling better or at least like you were finally addressing the […]
Getting Over A Breakup- Help From A Raleigh Therapist
( Getting Over A Breakup- Help From A Raleigh Therapist ) First Aid for the Broken Heart: Counseling So he/she said he just wasn’t that into you? Or he/she has another? Or he/she just plain said something that was so hurtful you need to move on. Remember you can’t force someone to have feelings they don’t, […]
Anxiety, Worry & Stress?- Help From a Raleigh Therapist
Anxiety, Worry & Stress- Help From a Raleigh Therapist We know all too well…. the pit in the stomach, butterflies, short shallow breath, heart racing; the scattered fearfulness of anxiety. By definition, Anxiety is fear of the unknown. We know to be afraid, but of what, we aren’t entirely sure. Certainly, anxiety serves several functions and […]
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