Can your mother empathize with you? Can she get past her defensiveness and put herself in your place? What do you do if the answer is no? But what if you need to get past this to move on, claim your life for yourself and parent to your daughter. How do you do this? This […]
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The Hidden Reason You Can’t Stand Up To Your Narcissistic Mother & What To Do About It
As a psychotherapist to women for over 30 years, I have seen this pattern over and over again. Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, trapped in the role of the “Good Daughter” can’t bring themselves to stand up to their narcissistic mothers. They want to, they mean to, but in the end, they just can’t do it. […]
How To Give Your Daughter The Self Esteem You Never Got From Your Own Mother
Let me ask you: How do you want your daughter to feel about herself? If I know you, you would gnaw off your right arm if that would give your daughter the self-esteem you wished you had gotten from your Narcissistic mother. You want more than anything for your daughter to feel confident and sure of […]
Healing From Your Narcissistic Mother Can Help You Embrace A New Way of Parenting
If you struggle or have struggled with your relationship with your narcissistic mother, my guess is you are determined to do things differently. While your own struggle has been painful, this may open the psychological door for you to make the very changes that can set both you and your daughter free.
Why You Need Liberating ( Especially From Your Narcissistic Mother)
Let’s get real for a moment sisters. Women have been burned, owned and controlled, for a very long time. We know, as women, this oppression figures prominently in our collective history. What we might fully realize is how the mistreatment of women has taken a psychological toll on our mothers. This unfair oppression has generated […]
What Is Psychodynamic Psychotherapy? How Does It Help You In The Present? Help From A Raleigh Therapist
Psychodynamic psychotherapy addresses the conscious as well as the unconscious roots of emotional pain. What is the unconscious and how does it affect the present? Let’s begin with how feelings become unconscious- You have to give credit to the brilliance of our psychological mind. It operates much like our physical body in response to pain. […]
6 Things You Can Say Instead of Giving Advice – Help From a Raleigh Therapist
You know the feeling. You are just itching to give advice, but you can sense it isn’t the best thing to do. Does your daughter really want your advice or so they just want to be heard? You’ve noticed: Your advice always seems to fall on deaf ears. Or worse, your daughter appears to […]
The Truly Impossible Difficult Narcissistic Mother: Help From a Raleigh Therapist
Do you have a truly impossible narcissistic mother? The narcissistic mother wrote the book on sending mixed messages. Saying one thing and meaning another is like breathing for her. Exclaiming, that she loves you without bounds one minute and then criticizing every move you make the next is crazy making for sure. What do you […]
Is It Love Or Anxiety? Help from a Raleigh therapist
WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT? Is it love or relationship anxiety? Are you feeling anxiety about a relationship and mistaking it for love? After hearing clients for over 30 years talk about love and the wounds they sustained from loving people who were hard to love, I began to […]
If It’s Not One Thing It’s Your Mother : Mother/Daughter Relationship Problems- Help From a Raleigh Therapist
Mother/Daughter Relationship Problems The lie that drove everything. Despite advances in women’s lives, your mother was lied to by her culture. The lie was that women are not worthy. Your mother learned from living in a patriarchal culture that she was not good enough and her female power was dangerous. Men throughout the ages have […]
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